You will be alone or you will feel lonely some time or the other. When you don’t meet people who are close to you for a long time, you might feel alone even though you are amidst a crowd. Basically, you tend to feel alone, when you are unable to freely talk whatever you want with other people.

 If you are always alone, then there is some problem with your own mentality and blame yourself for it. Being alone for more time will make you unstable.

If you are never alone, then you cannot think of the mistakes you do in your routine daily life OR you cannot think of better solutions for your problems OR  you cannot think of the tasks you want to do. If you are never alone means, all the decisions taken by you, will be in a hurry OR you will buy other’s ideas and will implement them without thinking much.

This shows a clear sign that you are leading a mechanical life and you are going to make more mistakes and you are not going to grow faster by utilizing your COMPLETE potential. 

It is always good to be alone for at least 30 minutes a day (away from all your friends, family and the rest of the known crowd) intentionally (even if you don’t get a chance to be alone automatically).

When you are alone, you need go to a place where you get some good weather and where nobody disturbs your thoughts. Once you get chance to think, you need to take up the most irritating problems you are facing in your current situation. There will be always something to irritate us OR even though it doesn't irritate us, we may have some complexity in solving that specific problem.

After taking up a problem which gets more priority, you have to ask question  “Your Self":

• Is this is really a problem OR are my feelings fake?

• How does this problem arise and what is the root cause of it?

• Who is the creator of this problem?

• How much % am I involved in creating this problem either directly or indirectly?

• How should I solve this problem?

• Does this problem has more than one solution?

• Can the problem be solved completely OR Will it arise again?

• If the problem can’t be solved completely, do I need to live along with the rest of the problem OR can I solve the remaining part of the problem next time completely?

• Am I creating a new problem by solving this problem?

• By solving this problem, does it affect others?

• Do I need to solve this problem or is it worth to live along with the problem?

• Is this problem going to create more opportunities with or without solving it?

• Am I going to get coordination from others for solving this problem or not?

• Is it possible to solve this problem alone?

If you can ask even more questions, it’s really good. Basically, you need to probe into yourself and question yourself more and try to answer them. After answering, you can pick the best possible way to solve the problem and you will have more clarity on what you are trying to solve.

If you are not alone, you cannot probe into yourself. Somebody will be there always to disturb you (either friends or family members) and you can’t afford to ignore them when you are along with them.

If you try asking all these questions to even your close friends, they may not have time or the interest enough to sit and answer all your questions. So, you have to be alone and think alone to get better solutions for all your problems.

"If a problem comes to you, it means that you too have some % of contribution in creation of that problem either directly or indirectly"